Say No Without the Guilt - A Free 60-minute webinar for Healthcare leaders who are done being depleted and want to joyfully thrive, not just survive.
LIVE WEBINAR
28th January 2026 | 7.30pm UK (60 minutes)
The Pattern That's Exhausting You
Here's the conversation happening in every hospital corridor, GP surgery, theatre, board room, lab, office and coffee room:
"Someone asked me to cover another shift. I said yes before I'd even thought about it. Now I'm working six days straight and I don't know why I agreed."
"I stayed two hours late because a colleague needed help. Again. I haven't seen my family awake all week."
"I can't say no. They'll think I'm not committed. They'll think I don't care."
"I'm so tired of being the person everyone comes to. But I don't know how to stop without feeling guilty."
Sound familiar?
If you've ever heard yourself saying yes when everything inside you was screaming no, you're not alone. And you're not weak. You're caught in the vicious Yes cycle and it's running your life.
What's Really Happening
Whether you wear scrubs, sit in boardrooms, lead research teams, or bridge clinical and commercial worlds, here's the uncomfortable truth:
You've been trained to put everyone else first. Patients. Colleagues. The system. The company profile, The department, The Everyone, except yourself.
And somewhere along the way, "being a good doctor, surgeon, nurse, researcher, professor, director, team lead" became synonymous with:
Never saying no
Always being available
Carrying more than your share
Saying yes to unreasonable demands
Feeling guilty when you protect your own time
But here's what nobody tells you:
Your inability to say no isn't helping anyone. Not really.
When you say yes to everything:
You resent the people you're helping
You're too exhausted to be fully present for patients
You teach others they can always ask because you'll always say yes
You lose yourself in everyone else's needs
And the guilt?
That's not your moral compass.
That's your people-pleasing pattern keeping you trapped.
What If You Could Say No Without the Guilt?
Imagine:
Finishing on time and actually having energy left for your life
Setting boundaries without apologising or over-explaining
Colleagues respecting your capacity instead of assuming you'll always say yes
Feeling proud of protecting your time rather than guilty about it
Going home knowing you gave your best to what truly mattered, because you weren't depleted by what didn't
This isn't about becoming "difficult" or "less caring."
It's about learning that your caring doesn't have to cost you everything.
In This Free Webinar, You'll Discover:
The Compassionate Pause Framework
A simple, immediately usable 5-step system that helps you:
✓ Pause before the automatic yes escapes your mouth
✓ Ask your body what it actually wants to say
✓ Understand the fear beneath the guilt
✓ Speak your truth using proven scripts that work
✓ Expect relief instead of disaster
You'll Walk Away With:
The exact words to say no without feeling guilty or apologising
A body-based technique to know when "yes" is authentic vs. people-pleasing
The truth about what actually happens when you say no (spoiler: it's not what you fear)
A reframe that transforms "I'm being selfish" into "I'm protecting my capacity to care"
Live practice scenarios you can use immediately in your workplace
Plus: Live Demonstration
Watch me guide someone through a real-time example of the Compassionate Pause Framework so you can see exactly how it works when guilt and fear show up.
LIVE ATTENDEE GIFT:
The Compassionate Pause Framework PDF
(Only available to those who attend live)
As a thank you for showing up live, you'll receive:
The Compassionate Pause Framework - A one-page guide you can keep at your desk with:
The complete P.A.U.S.E. system
Word-for-word scripts for different situations
Body check guidance
Fear reframe exercises
This week's practice tracker
Print it. Keep it visible. Use it tomorrow when someone asks you for "just one more thing."
This Webinar Is For You If:
You're a senior professional, working in healthcare (Consultant, Associate Professor, Senior Resident, Senior Nurse, Senior AHP, Manager, Clinical Lead, Department lead) who says yes to everything
You finish every day/shift exhausted because you've taken on more than you can handle
You feel guilty every time you even think about saying no
You're respected for your skills but drowning in other people's demands
You want to protect your energy without feeling selfish or uncaring
You're ready to stop sacrificing yourself to keep everyone else happy
What Past Coachees Are Saying:
"The Compassionate Pause changed everything for me"
"I used to worry constantly about how my responses would be received, especially in difficult conversations. Becs's Compassionate Pause framework taught me to listen to my body before responding. It's empowering and liberating, I can now say no authentically without guilt. Becs' deep understanding of what remains unspoken made all the difference. She simply gets it."
Maheshi S., GP
"In just four sessions with Becs, I've made more progress on my work-life balance than I have in years of trying on my own. I finally understood why I kept overcommitting - it wasn't about time management, it was about deeply ingrained patterns that no longer served me. I now protect one day per week for personal time, I'm sleeping better, and my connections with family and colleagues have noticeably improved. Becs understands the unique pressures of our profession because she's lived them herself. If you're a senior healthcare professional who's excellent at caring for everyone else but yourself, I cannot recommend her highly enough."
John M., Consultant Surgeon
"A year ago, I was drowning, barely treading water in a draining work environment, navigating menopause, and juggling responsibilities for elderly relatives and adolescent children after 25 years in healthcare research.
I'd forgotten how to pause. I just kept pushing through, ignoring warning signs, neglecting my own needs.
Becs helped me understand that pausing wasn't weakness, it was wisdom. She challenged me to stop, breathe, and redefine what I'd seen as failures into opportunities. To communicate better. To live more intuitively. To finally address needs I'd neglected for nearly two decades.
She had more faith in me than I had in myself and was never cowed by my cynicism. Her compassionate, practical approach is transforming my life.
Most of all, it's her inspiring personal example and authenticity that gave me permission to pause, reflect, and remould my future, which is far from over."
Helena T., Principal Scientist
Hi, I'm Dr Becs Winterborn
Former NHS consultant vascular surgeon turned transformational coach, creator of The Compassionate Pause Framework and The Heart-Led Leaders Compass©.
After 27 years in medicine, including 11 years as a consultant, I experienced work-related PTSD twice, complete burnout, and reached the point where I couldn't even enter the hospital grounds.
Through my own breaking and rebuilding, I discovered something crucial: The problem wasn't that I was too sensitive. The problem was a system that demanded I suppress my natural gifts to survive.
My coaching journey taught me how to say no and I turned what saved me into The Compassionate Pause Framework: a simple 5-step system to break the automatic yes pattern without guilt.
But I also realised something deeper: why we struggle with boundaries depends on our natural leadership style.
That's why I created The Heart-Led Leaders Compass© to help you understand which of five leadership archetypes you embody, and the specific patterns keeping you trapped in people-pleasing.
These two tools work together:
The Compassionate Pause Framework (taught in this webinar) gives you the practical tools to say no, the exact words, body check technique, and scripts that work.
The Heart-Led Leaders Compass reveals why saying no is difficult for your unique leadership style and what you actually need to thrive.
When you understand your archetype AND have the framework to say no, you stop fighting against your nature and start working with it.
Now I help healthcare professionals like you:
Set boundaries without guilt
Reclaim their authentic leadership power
Lead from their natural strengths instead of someone else's mould
Create sustainable careers that honour who they truly are
You don't have to reach breaking point to change. Let me show you another way.
You Don't Have to Choose Between Caring and Self-Care
The belief that saying no makes you a bad healthcare professional is a lie.
The truth?
When you protect your capacity, you're better able to care for what truly matters.
When you set boundaries, you model healthy leadership for your team.
When you say no to what drains you, you're saying yes to:
Your health
Your family
Your patients (when you're actually present)
The work that genuinely needs you
The leader you're meant to be
This webinar gives you permission and the practical tools to finally reclaim your energy, your time and joy in your life.
Register now. Your future self will thank you.
Webinar: 28th January 2026 | 7:30pm UK | 60 minutes
You've spent your career caring for everyone else. It's time to learn how to care for yourself too, without the guilt.